Post-Separation Experience of Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence in Southern Nigeria

Studies of intimate partner violence (IPV) among heterosexual male victims have predominantly focused on pre-separation experiences with post-separation experiences largely overlooked. In under-resourced settings such as Africa, where research on male victimization is limited, little is known about the post-separation experiences of male victims. This study used grounded theory methodology to examine the post-separation experiences and coping strategies of thirty-two heterosexual male victims in Nigeria. Using content analysis based on category development, three themes emerged: “Haunted self,” “Changed self,” and “Coping with the haunted and changed self.” “Haunted self” emphasizes the long-term negative impacts on male victims’ physical and mental health, along with ongoing victimization by their ex-partners. “Changed self” reflects the negative effects of their experiences on perceptions and attitudes toward new intimate relationships. “Coping with the haunted and changed self” describes various adaptive and maladaptive strategies used to manage these issues. While adaptive strategies like help-seeking did not yield consistent positive outcomes, benevolent reappraisal was generally beneficial. Lessons learned proved detrimental for some victims who made premature decisions based on hasty conclusions. Maladaptive strategies such as self-loathing, regret, and self-blame caused further harm. The findings indicate a need for policymakers, practitioners, and researchers to collaborate on implementing compulsory post-separation therapy sessions for both victims and perpetrators.